Adjusting
June 14th, 2008At the moment, the UK is like a big party in which I only know a single person. I’ve had a long standing theory that parties are most successful when all guests know at least two of the other guests. The reasoning behind this is that if someone only knows one person at the party, that one person (if the are considerate) has the added pressure of making sure that individual is doing ok, which means that person can’t socialize as much as he likes. The singly connected member, as his friend wanders around, invariably will become isolated at some point, which tends to not be a whole lot of fun either. There are certainly exceptions to the rule; I’ve been to a number of successful parties where that guideline has been violated. For instance, people who are only connected through their significant others may be an exception (I suspect it is because even if they haven’t met the people their S.O. knows, they know of them, and the others don’t think of S.Os as completely new people). Also, I think if the party is meant to be a meet new people event, rather than a hanging out event, then the rule doesn’t apply either.
For me, I have the fortune of finding myself living with a really great roommate here in Cambridge. She’s been super-helpful and friendly. I think we are off to a good start, based on my vast experience with roommates (I’ve had something like 10*). I guess the only downside of the large amount of hospitality shown me is that as she invariably attends to the commitments of her normal life, I am occasionally forced to adjust back to being more self sufficient, which is a challenge.
It’s like the UK and all of its associated experiences is everyone in the party that I don’t know and I need to start developing some additional links into it. Once I have those, I think everything will feel less strange. I think the added benefit of doing this will be to reduce my perceived dependence on my roommate. My three days of being the new houseguest are up, so I’m actively concerned about not becoming the fish that stinks. I really don’t want to draw the resentment of my roommate for being in the way. However, like any unfamiliar party, it’s difficult to get started. I’ve gotten pretty good at connecting myself at people parties. I am less good at doing this at the new country, new culture, new surrounding party.
Fortunately, I made a list of things to occupy myself with today: I am going to cycle to the MSR offices. Then, I am going to buy a light rain coat somewhere on High Street, as I’ve discovered it rains pretty unpredictably here. Oh, check out my flat on my Picasa page.
*I laughed while counting my roommate number, because I imagine the way I was doing it was similar to how people count the number of people they’ve slept with.
